Out with the old then in with the new

We’re all talking about 2021 goals and I love it.

But can I interrupt the conversation and talk about 2020 and beyond habits that I | WE need to break!

Here’s my strange addiction! A terrible habit that I started years ago.

This one cup of ☕️ (creme brûlée latte with almond milk) cost over $6!!!!!

I know better! The coffee isn’t even consistently delicious. Yet I still find myself in that line 🤦🏾‍♀️.

I’m over it .. and I’m working on the perfect coffee recipe. In 2021, that $6 a day will become an investment!

What is it for you and do you have an extraction strategy?

Out with the old THEN in with the new!

Birthday Love

When I think of you, one word comes to mind, fantastic!

In the beginning, there was you and I.

For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.

When I’m afraid … you protect me
When I’m sad … you console me
When I’m lonely … you comfort me
When I’m angry … you hear me
When I’m tired … you provide rest
When I can’t see … you can
When I have a need … you meet it
When I have a dream … you support it

I would call you superman, but even he isn’t strong enough to carry the weight that you do. So I name you Fantastic Fonz.

In this life, I’m not sure of many things, but I know, without doubt, that you will be my always and forever.

I’m so glad you were born, for my sake and the sake of many:

Your presence is necessary
Your wisdom is required
Your silent strength is comforting
Your heart connects with another heart uniquely

YOU MATTER!
This world would not be the same without you in it!

I’ll never assume you know this & ensure that you constantly hear it.

I love you Fantastic Fonz! I still get butterflies when I look at you. You truly are one of a kind!

Happy Birthday!
💓Gwen

The Gift of Voice

Tomorrow is Christmas and I’ve decided that my true love is ME!

Today I gift myself with the gift of voice!

I will no longer be muted by my fears and insecurities.

I replace self-doubt with self – confidence.

When I hear, “Girl you can’t do this because you’re not them.” I’ll say, “I can and will do it because it is what I was created and graced to do.”

From this day forward, I acknowledge that my voice matters, my words break chains, and every word I don’t speak, hinders the growth of another.

Enjoy this video.

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The Gift of Voice

Tomorrow is Christmas and I’ve decided that my true love is ME!

Today I gift myself with the gift of voice!

I will no longer be muted by my fears and insecurities.

I replace self-doubt with self – confidence.

When I hear, “Girl you can’t do this because you’re not them.” I’ll say, “I can and will do it because it is what I was created and graced to do.”

From this day forward, I acknowledge that my voice matters, my words break chains, and every word I don’t speak, hinders the growth of another.

Enjoy this video.

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The Gift of Voice

Tomorrow is Christmas and I’ve decided that my true love is ME!

Today I gift myself with the gift of voice!

I will no longer be muted by my fears and insecurities.

I replace self-doubt with self – confidence.

When I hear, “Girl you can’t do this because you’re not them.” I’ll say, “I can and will do it because it is what I was created and graced to do.”

From this day forward, I acknowledge that my voice matters, my words break chains, and every word I don’t speak, hinders the growth of another.

Enjoy this video.

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The Gift of Tears

2 days til Christmas and I’ve decided that my true love is ME!

Today I give myself the gift of tears.

I remind myself that my tears matter and I reject the myth that I have to be or even have the ability to be strong for others.

I release myself from the bondage of pretending that I have it all together and I allow myself in this moment to simply let my heart break.

“To everything there is a season“, and this season brings joy and sorrow. I used to think that I had to choose between the two, this year I’ve decided to embrace both.

When I have dinner with my family, I’m grateful.
When I bless my kids, I’m honored.
When I open my gifts, I’m humbled.
And when I miss my Mommy and my Grandparents,
I’m sad … and that is absolutely ok!

Gift yourself with a moment not only to grieve, but to remember.

The pain I feel this season and every season is apart of me now.

No more hiding!
No more coping!

This year, I face it and embrace it!

Allow yourself the space and grace that you require.

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE STRONG!
There is NOTHING to be ashamed of!

You just be you, unapologetically, and if they love you, they’ll accept you right where you are, just as you are!

~Gwen~
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The Power of Choice

4 days til Christmas and I’ve decided that my true love is ME!
Today I gift myself with TIME!

Seem impossible? It’s not as difficult as you think.

In my book MAJORfit: Keys to Embracing, Learning, & Loving YOU, I write:

“Every day you must choose to continue to work on you, some days, every moment. You’re doing the work and, your reward is the power of choice.”

On the first day of training, my Grief Recovery mentor, Mrs. Lois Hall left us with this powerful statement, “YOU GET TO CHOOSE.”

We often forget the power of choice. Today, it’s my gift to you.

We get to choose:

*Who we entertain and how long we entertain them
*What|Who gets our yes
*What we allow in our space
*Where our priorities lie
*How we conduct our day

And this is the short list.

Embrace this power of choice and you’ll not only regain control of your life, but also redeem your time!

Each day we’re all gifted the same 24 hrs, WE GET TO CHOOSE how we spend each hour, spend wisely.

~Gwen~
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There’s Healing in Self – Acceptance

5 days till Christmas and I’ve decided that my true love is ME!

Today I gift myself with ACCEPTANCE!

This photo makes my heart smile, it took years for me to fully accept me for me. Two things I’d hide from were cameras and people! I feared if someone knew the real me, they wouldn’t like me. So the walls went up, and I hid behind my work. I’d convinced myself that my works held more value than my person and as a result, everywhere I went, I offered my works instead of my heart. I soon realized that I’d acquired many working relationships, but no genuine ones. I was lonely, I felt like a misfit, but I’d become content as an outsider looking in.

I write in chapter 1 of my book MAJORfit: Keys to embracing, Learning & Loving YOU:

“In order to love ourselves, we must first embrace who we are.”

My quest to self – acceptance began with Grief Recovery and once I realized I was no misfit, I was a MAJORfit so many doors opened for me. All it took was me facing and accepting me! Flaws and all!

Today I offer you the gift of acceptance. The moment you realize that your puzzle piece holds value, it just wasn’t created to fit every puzzle, you’ll finally find freedom!

Stop trying to plug into puzzles you weren’t designed to complete. Look in the mirror and say,

“ I AM UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME and I’m no misfit, I AM A MAJORfit.”

~Gwen’s Orders~
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A Case for Confidence

6 days til Christmas and I’ve decided that my true love is ME! Today I gift myself with CONFIDENCE!

-Believing that I AM what the word says I am

What makes me feel confident?

-FABULOUS HAIR
-Unique & Beautiful accessories
-The baddest, flyest, DOPEST Shoes
-An “I’m proud of you” from Husband, Family, Pastors & Friends
-A Good check-in with my confident coach
-My degrees (they remind me to put some respect on my name!)
-The moment when my clients realize THEY MATTER and leave my office with their heart full and their head UP!

What makes you feel confident? Let’s celebrate together.
You’ve read my list, now share yours.

There’s only 6 days left until Christmas, you’ve taken care of everyone else, it’s your turn to love on you! YOU ARE YOUR TRUEST LOVE! Do something that makes you feel confident today!

Stay tuned, I’ll be back with more keys to A Very MAJORfit Christmas tomorrow!

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The Beauty and Irony of the Rose

It blooms, even when it’s detached.

It’s beautifully layered. Each layer is unique, some remain and some fall away as the rose matures.

It’s centered. It’s core is covered and protected, it’s safe.

It’s exposed. As it blooms, the outer leaves become individualized, vulnerable even, yet they maintain their beauty and strength.

It’s support system is strong!
The stem, although thin, and seemingly useless is imperative for sustenance.

The 🌹 is perfectly imperfect.
The rose is ME!

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